A good sex life takes time and effort to cultivate and maintain. It is not an easy feat — our busy lives often leave us tired and devoid of the imagination and motivation required to keep things hot. Factor in the reality of maintaining multiple sex partners and its no wonder a lot of people have a lackluster unsatisfactory sex life. Having good sex doesn’t necessarily mean spending hours and hours in practice, it can be as simple as doing something a little different for a change.
Women are cyclic creatures, their sex drives vary depending on hormones and what’s going on in their lives. Sometimes, getting a woman aroused may require a bit more than the same-old song and dance. This applies to men too.
Therefore, it’s important to add a few more stimulating aspects to your sex life to keep things interesting.
Here are some tips for better sex.
Blindfold
Sexual pleasure is multi-dimensional, and unbeknownst to many, the most important sexual organ we have is our brain. When one sense is hindered, our other senses — via the brain — highten to compensate. A deaf person for example has increased sensory awareness — sight, smell, touch, and vibrations. Tap into this innate ability and use it to your advantage: Blindfolding your partner increases their sensory awareness. They don’t know where you are or what you are going to do next. This creates anticipation for better sex — the tease. Tease them with sensory objects, such as a feather, light touches, or your tongue. Start off softly, this excites the nerve endings and makes them far more sensitive. Be careful to not overstimulate the nerve endings, because after a while the neuron intensity diminishes and the sensation becomes null and void, even annoying or uncomfortable to some people.
Instructions
After a while you may think you know all the ways to please your partner. This is never true. There is a world of infinite possibilities. There is always something you haven’t tried, and there is bound to be something one of you always does that could be done differently.
To enact instructions for better sex, have a lesson session. Submit yourself to your partner, be a blank canvas and be at each other’s mercy as teacher and student. Talk about things you haven’t tried, but would like to, choose one suggestion from each partner, and tun up di ting. We often think we know what our partners like, and after a while it becomes “the way it’s done.” Lose this myth, put yourself in the student’s chair for a while, or someone else could be teaching your partner about all the things you don’t do.
Massage
Sensual touch is one of the sexiest, relaxing things you can do for your partner. Tension in our bodies hinders our energy flow, this includes sexual energy.
A relaxing sensual massage unlocks the body to very intense orgasms and much better sex all around. Being able to relax your partner in this way should be high on your list of skills to master. Note: Their is a difference between a deeply relaxing massage and a sensual massage, its all in the touch — you don’t want to relax your partner too deeply because they will probably just fall sleep.
In this case, the key is to keep their senses alert, but their body relaxed. This means a firm touch, coupled with some sensory feather-light caresses. Once you’ve relaxed the major muscles — shoulders and back — work your way down. Strokes can then start to wander near the more erogenous zones. Don’t neglect the hands and feet — there are thousands of nerve endings in our hands and feet that are very sensitive to touch. No idea what a good massage feels like or how to perform one? Spend some time in “lesson time” with your partner and learn what you both like or just run your hands all over each others body — all over. Don’t bruck the line and skip to the hot spots or you’ll ruin the effect.
Dress Up
Pretending to be something you’re not comes too easily to some people. There is a way however to put a positive spin on this undesirable trait. Step outside of being “yourself”. This can be a fun way to permit each other to behave differently than the norm for better sex. Playing the role of someone else during sexual play can be a very enjoyable way to give your partner some different sensations, and try things that you haven’t done before. Role playing is a great way to have better sex and to have fun with your partner in a light-hearted but sexy way. Elaborate, expensive costumes are not mandatory; and “dressing up” is not relegated to clothes…use items around the house and your imagination.
Share Your Fantasies
Sharing your fantasies with your partner is a very conducive form of sex play. It increases communication, which is of utmost importance. Sharing your fantasies should not be used as an excuse to slide in demands that you know are far left of what your partner is comfortable with.
It should help you get to know each other better for better sex. You may be surprised by what comes out of their mouth, but this works both ways. Keep it light at first, don’t immediately dive into the deep dark reaches of things that would make the Marquis de Sade blush. Sit back with a glass of wine, fully clothed, and have a heart to heart.
Talk Dirty
Talking dirty has turned people on for millennia and will continue to be one of the most effective sex tools for eternity. It has something other sex play doesn’t: words. Because our brains are our largest sexual apparatus, we have an automatic response to the spoken word — especially when someone says our name.
Talking dirty is, however, an art form. As with all things artistic, there are different levels of proficiency. Like Bogle said “everybody can dance, but a no everybody a dancer”.
Start off easy with neutral topics, such as how you feel inside her, how you want him to enter you, etc. Don’t get too carried away, let it flow naturally out of you. If you are not used to verbalizing these things, this can be uncomfortable or awkward at first,so practice. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself how you plan on dealing with them case, lol. This will help.
Be careful with cursing too much — it can be a turn off. Try to stick to positive words, and leave the commonly used insults out. Watch how you refer to each other and each others body parts too — this is not the time to inadvertently inform someone that you think she’s a “suck hood gyal”.
New Position
You already know how to make them orgasm (probably). You repeat whatever it is regularly because it works — there’s no harm in that. Well, there is some harm in that, if you never, ever try any new positions, how will you ever know that there are other ways to gift your beloved with more intense mind-blowing orgasms?
Use your imagination and come up with as many weird and wonderful inventions as you desire. A simple location change can dramatically alter your interaction. Utilize all the rooms and the architectural uniqueness of your home. How much weight can your back fence hold? It’s a cool, cool night, nice breeze under that mango tree on the side of your house 😉
Make time, be open-minded, respectful of your partner, apply yourself, relax and enjoy. Life is short!
