If your significant other is always talking about their ex, you have money disagreements and they just always have a way of getting you down; it’s probably time to cut.
Romantic encounters can last til “death do you part”, till you die slowly and excruciatingly piece by piece, or until you quickly and humanely extricate yourself from a situation that is going nowhere fast. Your goal is to separate who should stay from who should go. To help you weed out the bad seeds, here is a breakdown of some actions that signify someone is simply not worth your time. Wouldn’t you rather be with the people who really bring positivity and good times into your life? Yeah? Me too.
It’s Always About Them
You got a promotion, and their concern is that now you’ll have less time for them, and they hope you don’t change, and what are they supposed to do now that you’ll have less time for them? Sound familiar? When you’re excited about work or life goals, but they’re switching the subject to focus on their interests, they don’t care about you. This is a sure sign you’re dealing with someone self-absorbed and selfish. Jump ship now, and save yourself the trouble of being involved with someone who will never see your aspirations and accomplishments as being of import.
Your Values Vastly Differ
Opposites attract, but not when it comes to values and world views. As a die-hard Yankees fan, overcoming her love for the Red Sox might be sports suicide. But other issues prove to be more problematic, like if you have different religions and this can’t be reconciled, or if you have different ways of managing money and expenses. Also, issues of ethics, etc, these dissimilarities can lead to complications.
They’re Too Busy
Guilty. But that’s why me nah look nobody, and I don’t want nobody looking me at this point in time. I’m just too busy.  Work can be demanding, and personal affairs must be tended to. But, if the person in your life is constantly MIA, it’s time to break it off. When a person is interested in someone else, they make time. Now, granted, it might not be all the time you feel you need or want :-).  But, when there is always some other person, event, or commitment that precedes you, that’s a clear indication that you are not as high on the priority list. My advice? If you can’t deal, gracefully exit. Do not harangue and bother bother the person.
They Constantly Talk About Their Ex(es)
It’s bad enough to hear about one ex-file, but the entire encyclopedia Britannica worth of exes? No thanks, not a baxide. This means they are still too emotionally attached, and you are in danger of being the rebound. They are using you to escape their pain, rather than choosing you out of desire. Get a little history on their most recent relationship and try to gauge if enough time has passed. Although, some people subscribe to the doctrine of “nah let go”, so although what would be considered an adequate amount of time has elapsed, they will always be too attached.
Initiating Contact Is One-sided
Women and men appreciate when contact initiation is mutual and balanced. Now, granted, some people do not afford you an opportunity to contact them as they are always haunting you. When someone tells you they will get back to you, give them a chance to. Even if it takes days. You cannot realistically sustain a pattern of trying to dictate anyone’s actions. Not waiting and calling or texting back in (whatever amount of time) is attempting to do just that. There should be a balance of communication initiation by both parties if there is truly respect, attraction, and mutual interest. Effective communication is a two-way street.
The Relationship Is Hot And Cold
You know when you have a fever? And you burn then freeze, freeze then burn up? Alright. They’re very nice and then not so much—and it’s always your fault. That’s not fun, foolishness that. That might even be an indication of lurking behavioral issues. Run for cover, bomb a drop. Lol, but seriously. Some people have been socialized to believe that they have to torment/test a person to see if the person values them. Again, in my book; that’s foolishness and a very flawed thought process. If someone feels that you should put up with their erratic unreasonable behavior to prove that you really care about them; guess what? They don’t really care about you. Don’t put up with the foolishness and games—unless you like to lose.
They’ve “Changed” Since You Started Dating
That moment when you realize your “perfect gentleman/lady” is a belching at the table, allergic to manners, brutish, crude creature. Don’t be dismayed, be delighted that the true them has surfaced. Most people start out a relationship trying to be on their best behavior. If they were putting on an act to get you to like them, they won’t be able to keep it up. Eventually, their true personality will come out. When this happens, don’t keep hoping that the act was the real them.
You Aren’t Your Best Self With Them
If their habits make you want to scream, they always try to find or invent flaws in you, and they bring you down. This person is never going to help you grow. If there’s always tension, irritability and you feel drained, defensive, and never good enough, they’re not for you. When the first thing out of their mouth is a complaint and you begin to dread what they have to say, hit the delete button and magnetize your brain in hopes that you’ll forget you ever met them.
Damsel In Distress
Feeling like Superman/woman can be a rush, but it’s not your job to save them from their own problems. If you meet someone who acts helpless, needy, and dependent or is wounded or mentally ill, they need professional support and therapy. As much as you may like the idea of being their hero, that kind of relationship will do more harm to you than good. It will only be a matter of time before to them, you become a distressing problem from which they’ll need a new savior.
They’re Unfaithful
Game over. Time to move on—ASAP. Why, how come? Matters not. It’s not you, its 100% them. Cheating is a choice, not something thrust upon anyone because of this that, or the other. People cheat because they choose to. Simple.
