When people are in love, they tend to pull some crazy stunts. But, there are some things love is just not an excuse for. Never allow your emotions to eclipse your common sense and permit you to do something you will regret. Everyone has feelings, but you have to learn how to control them. If you’re unable to do so, be open to being held accountable for whatever you do, because there are some things love is just not an excuse for:
Cheating
If you cheat on your partner with someone you feel you’re madly in love with, it’s still considered cheating. If you decide that you really want to be with another person, break up with your mate before anything inappropriate happens. No matter how you look at it, cheating is one of the things love is not an excuse for. You can’t justify your wrongdoing by saying you did it out of love. You made a promise to your partner to be faithful, and you broke it
Lying
When you love your partner, you should want to protect them from the world, so it makes sense to lie about little things like how good they look, or where you were last night. However, this is not to say that you should tell big lies to your partner out of love. If you’ve lost your job, or your feelings have changed, these are things that they should know. The secrets aren’t helping them. And you are essentially lying, by omission.
Fighting
When you’re scared of losing someone, your emotions can get pretty intense. However, you can’t hit your partner when they do something wrong in order to show them how much you care about their poor decisions or how intense your feelings are. Hurting them is not going to “put them in line” or show them how much you “care.” Don’t do it.
Holding Them Back
If your partner wants to accept a job offer they got in another state, or wants to attend school away from you, don’t try to convince them to stay where you are. Your love for them shouldn’t make you fight for them. It should make you want what’s best for them. If it’s meant to be, you’ll find a way to work everything out irrespective of where you are.
Hurting Yourself
It doesn’t matter what your partner has done or what you have done to your partner–do not hurt yourself over it. Love is an intense emotion that can prompt crazy thoughts, but it should never be the cause of you harming yourself. Even if your partner left you in the worst way possible, I doubt that they’d want you to be in physical pain.
Changing Yourself
Don’t dis your friends and family (unless they are negative in your life, in which case put distance between you and them) get a new wardrobe or drastically modify yourself physically after falling in love because you think it’ll make them like you better. Love should make you want to be a better person, but not a totally different person. Don’t lose sight of yourself and/or what’s important.
Some people who fall in love allow emotion to control their lives. While it can be a beautiful thing to find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, be sure that they are making your life better, not worse.
Have you ever been in a destructive relationship?
When did you realize that it wasn’t a good situation for you?
