Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissistic Sociopath
The recent murder of Simone Campbell-Collymore and subsequent shooting of her widower Omar Best Collymore in Jamaica has sparked widespread discussion regarding how much weight should be given to one’s relationship history.
Much of the discussion is centered around the fact that Simone is not the first woman who was murdered in a vehicle while in his immediate vicinity.
Angela Aguiar, 38, was a single mother and real estate agent originally from New York. She was involved in a relationship with Omar Best Collymore. She was gunned down and killed at about 3:30 am. on June 30, 2008 while she was in a vehicle driven by Best Collymore. This occurred approximately a month after she obtained a million dollar life insurance policy in which he was named a beneficiary.
On Tuesday January 2, 2018 at approximately 4pm, Simone Campbell-Collymore on whom it was alleged that a high value insurance policy was recently issued was shot and killed shortly after entering a taxi at premises where her husband Omar Best Collymore was in residence.
Based on video recording of the incident: Three motorcycles approached the taxi shortly after Mrs. Campbell-Collymore boarded. Two riders alighted and was immediately shot the taxi driver dead. The shooter then leaned into the vehicle and shot toward the passenger side of the vehicle. The vehicle then began rolling, it was followed, the passenger door opened and Mrs. Campbell-Collymore repeatedly shot.
On Friday January 19, 2018, at about 10:50am Omar Best Collymore was in a vehicle that entered the parking lot of Allied Insurance Brokers on Belmont Road in Kingston, Jamaica. Speculations are that he was at Allied Insurance Brokers to transact business regarding the life insurance policy underwritten by that company on Mrs. Collymore.
According to reports, the vehicle was approached by an individual who opened fire shortly after it was parked. Best Collymore and another occupant were shot and taken to hospital.
Omar Best Collymore is no stranger to controversy. A quick search in the state of FL reveals multiple small claims lawsuits filed against him by several women, as well as dueling restraining orders between himself and neighbours.
A lot of people have wondered just how much Simone knew about his history, especially his speculated involvement in the unsolved murder of Miss Aguiar. After all, he collected $400,000.00 from Miss Aguiar’s life insurance policy mere months after his marriage to Simone.
On October 8, 2017, Alina Sheykhet was discovered deceased in a pool of blood by her father after he broke down the door to her bedroom because she didn’t answer calls or show up to meet them earlier that day for a breast cancer walk.
On October 11, 2017, Matthew Darby, her former boyfriend was arrested and charged in her murder.
According to the New York Daily News, Sheykhet had recently obtained an order of protection against Darby. She wrote that Darby climbed up the gutter of her home and broke in through the second-floor window. “He did this because I left him and stopped answering his phone calls,”
Sheykhet’s roommate has described Darby as possessive and controlling.
He demanded access to her social media accounts and Sheykhet allegedly often had to change her passwords to stop him from accessing them. He would then allegedly force Sheykhet to tell him her new passwords. He also sometimes impersonated her online.
Darby has a history of prior arrests for alleged violence against women, according to court documents. In February 2017, in Indiana County, Pennsylvania, he was charged with rape, sexual assault, aggravated indecent assault and additional charges against a different ex-girlfriend.
He is also facing a rape charge in Allegheny County.
Narcissistic sociopaths come from all walks of life. They’re our friends, lovers, neighbors and co-workers. They’re outgoing and persuasive, they initially dazzle you with charm and flattery.
They’re also charming, manipulative, grandiose, lying, authoritarian, secretive and divisive.
People with narcissism are characterized by their excessive and persistent need for others’ admiration and positive reinforcement. They have grandiose opinions of themselves and believe they are superior to other people. They also believe in showing this superiority at every opportune, or inopportune moment.
The good looking (even if only in their mind) charming person who initially lavished you with compliments and positive reinforcements suddenly becomes overly critical and hell bent on ensuring that you realize that they are superior to you, and that you have myriad faults and limitations. These faults and limitations are typically then used to justify, or validate their increasingly unpleasant treatment of you.
Narcissists are also frequently convinced that they are above the normal responsibilities and obligations of everyday life, consequently, they usually have significant difficulties maintaining employment and relationships.
They’re too ambitious and their plans too big for “regular jobs”.. but they have no problem demanding a certain standard of living from the proceeds of your regular job, all the while critiquing and belittling you and your regular job. Additionally, (in their mind) everyone hates on them because they’re jealous. Male narcissistic sociopaths have a particularly difficult time interacting with men they do not already know. They obsessively and irrationally compare themselves to other men and are prone to being overly aggressive toward other men.
While true sociopaths generally do not respond to criticism or care what others may think of them; narcissistic sociopaths react strongly and sometimes even violently to unfavorable feedback.
They have no issues with manipulating information and situations to cast others in an unfavorable light. They relish these situations and will often revel in the shame and frustration caused by their actions. They level reckless accusations and deride all defenses while either appearing to be emotionally detached, or overly emotional. What their poor victims do not realize is, no explanation or proof will ever suffice. The goal from the onset was to make an ass of you and, if possible, have you questioning the truth and your sanity.
They are unable to tolerate criticism and require constant praise, as well as deference from other people. Many with this condition present themselves in the best light possible and easily charm others to gain their trust.
Any unfavorable information or feedback about them, however truthful, is usually met with verbal and/or physical violence.
Narcissistic sociopaths have a serious aversion to the truth. They will lie for absolutely no reason and they are the most distrustful people you will ever encounter. Because they are pathological liars,(a) they are incapable of trusting anyone, (b) they constantly accuse others of being dishonest to deflect from their own dishonesty.
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who demanded that you always defer, acquiesce, or wholly submit to them? If not, you were met with erratic moods, sulkiness, emotional outbursts and overall volatility? That is another trait of a narcissistic sociopath.
They need to control their partner and will attempt to control everyone around them in some type of way. They try to be recognized as the everything expert or they try to emotionally coerce you into submission by suggesting that by you not bowing to their every whim you are disloyal, irreparably flawed and not unsupportive.
Secrets, secrets, secrets. Narcissistic sociopaths are masters of secrecy. They are duplicitous, sneaky and reticent. But, they will never respect your privacy, nor do they feel that you are entitled to any. All because they know their lives are entire cemeteries full of skeletons.
If you ever discover their secrets or deception, do not confront them. Nothing good will ever come of it. Instead, plan an exit strategy and extricate yourself from the relationship as quickly and completely as possible. These are the people who will search your electronic devices, search your home and generally snoop into all areas of your life while theirs are kept under tight security.
A relationship with a narcissistic sociopath adversely affects all your other relationships. They are extremely divisive. They will seek to control all your interactions, and ultimately the people with whom you interact.
They sew seeds of discord with the people who they can’t charm and manipulate, they stop at no end to either keep you in a state of conflict with these people, assuming they cannot get you to end those other relationships.
You will find yourself at odds with neighbors, co-workers, friends and families. All because of your narcissistic sociopath’s actions toward these people, or because of the seeds of dissension they planted in your mind. They will watch you crash and burn, become alienated, lose close relationships and then use that to further erode your sense because you are alienated, and they’re all you have.
- Would you enter into a relationship with someone you know committed a crime that caused harm to a former partner?
- If you didn’t know prior to the relationship, but found out that your partner committed a crime that caused harm to a former partner, would you stay in the relationship?