Things You Should Never Tolerate In A Relationship

There are things you should never tolerate in a relationship. Granted, we are complex beings and while we may rationally know we should not be with someone, for some people its not always easy to walk away. Always remember that no one is entitled to treating you less than stellar (presuming that your conduct warrants this).  Always remember that you are a worthy being and that you never deserve, nor should you tolerate the harmful things a partner may inflict upon you.  At the same time, do not feel as though you are entitled to inflict any type of harm on your partner (or ex (real, or imagined).

1. Cheating

Of all the things you should never tolerate in a relationship, cheating is an obvious one. Cheating should not be tolerated in a relationship for several reasons. One, if your partner is cheating, you don’t know what diseases they may be picking up from others, and these could jeopardize your own health. For another, cheating breaks trust, which is a major foundation of a healthy relationship. If you happen to feel, given your particular circumstances, that working through an incident is an option you want to explore, fine, but do NOT, by any means, tolerate perpetual cheating. A cheater is not worth your life, or death.


2. Lying

In addition to cheating, perpetual lying should not be tolerated as trust is a key foundation in any relationship. A white lie here and there is not necessarily something to get worked up over, but if you catch your partner lying to you on a regular basis, it’s time to rethink your relationship.


3. Volatile Tempers

Anger is a natural human emotion. Everyone feels angry at times, but anger and a volatile temper are two drastically different concepts. If you find that your partner punches holes in walls, takes their anger out on you, makes threats, breaks things, etc., this is not a healthy expression of anger and can lead to devastating consequences. Do not tolerate this behavior.  Insist that they seek treatment and/or drop them.


4. Physical or Sexual Abuse

Abuse of any form should not be tolerated in a relationship. Unfortunately, many people fail to recognize signs of domestic abuse for a number of reasons. You must first realize that no matter what, you should NEVER be abused. If your partner hits you, beats you, rapes you (and yes, this includes marital rape), or inflicts any sort of physical violence on you, try your best to get out of the situation. If they are constantly coercing you to do things sexually or otherwise that you do not want to do, leave.  I know this is often easier said than done, but realize, this ought not be tolerated and  you are worthy of someone who will treat you and your body with respect!


5. Mental or Emotional Abuse

Mental and emotional abuse are often even harder to detect than physical or sexual abuse. If your partner uses manipulation, threats, belittlement, or any other means of making you feel unsafe, insecure, or bad about yourself, this is most likely a form of abuse as well. Do not tolerate a partner who makes you feel unworthy. And remember, no matter what they say to knock you down, the shame is on them, not on you.


6. Harm to Your Children

If you find that your partner has in any way jeopardized the well-being of your children, get rid of them immediately. Whether the children are theirs or not, they must respect them as well as you. If your children ever say that they have been inappropriately touched, harmed physically, etc. by your partner, they MUST go. NEVER tolerate anyone who harms your children.


7. Disrespect

Ultimately, all of these things can be boiled down to disrespect in some manner. If you find that your partner is not respecting your body, thoughts, emotions, etc., find someone else who will.

These are some of the things I feel should never be tolerated in a relationship. Your thoughts?


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